Stay at Home Moms

I haven't worked since I was seven months pregnant with Ansley. Ryan works a crazy schedule and I'm not real keen on leaving my kids with anyone. As I mentioned before, I don't have any real skills so we decided I'd stay home to care for our trophies. It cracks me up the things people will ask me to do for them "because I don't work."

I wonder, do all stay at home moms get this treatment? I get asked if I will keep people's kids while they work a full time job. I'm like, do you even know me? I don't just love kids. I love my kids but that is pretty much it. I can understand asking me this once but I make it very clear that I am not interested and they continue to ask. I chose to stay home to raise my kids, not yours.

I've been called last minute to see if I could just swing by and decorate for a birthday party. I've also been called and the person will say, "so and so just had a baby,  and how they would just love to be able to take a meal over but they work...so could I do it for them?" I'm thinking my kids will be lucky if they get some Ramen thrown at them and you think I have enough groceries in my house to whip up a nice meal for someone in a few hours?! Don't get me wrong, I will help someone in need. I just don't appreciate people "suggesting" what I should do.

I recently had an older lady that lives with her son's family, ask me if I would teach her to drive! What? Are you serious? What does that even mean? I'm just standing there like a deer in headlights with all these thoughts racing through my mind. Have you had a nervous breakdown and your family doesn't want you to have a license? Why are you asking me and not them? Oh yeah, I don't work and they do. Whose insurance would cover you if you crashed my car? What would Ryan say? How do you even respond to such a request? That's when I remembered I'm late to pick up a kid from school and leave abruptly.

It has even been suggested that maybe I shouldn't be such a fat butt because I'm a SAHM. I suppose I could spend countless hours at the gym, you know because I don't have anything better to do. I'll admit I really should get back in the gym. I keep telling myself I'll get back. I'm taking baby steps right now. I recently started getting up in the morning and putting my workout clothes on. I'm trying to build up to driving to the gym, if I could only make it inside...but that's a whole other issue.

What blows my mind more than anything is the requests are almost always prefaced with, "I know you don't work" or "since you stay home..."

To clear up any doubt SAHM's don't really just stay at home and twiddle their thumbs all day! Obviously, I have time to blog and fb with the occasional Pinterest thrown in. I try to watch as much television as possible and nap, oh the naps. Seriously though, when I worked I probably thought the same thing. I remember ditching work  having the day off and going to the mall and seeing all the other moms there pushing their little strollers around and I just thought they had it made! Staying home and working moms both have their own perks. I think SAHM's just volunteer for more things and we do "work" we just don't get paid for what we do.

So, if you are a stay at home mom, have you ever been asked to do something because "I know you don't work?"

If you're a working mom, what's your take on the subject?

I've been both and I really thought working a full time job was easier. However, that was with one child and I was much younger. Now, I see moms that work with multiple children and I seriously wonder how they do all they do. Maybe that's why they ask me to drop off their dry cleaning.

Quick and Easy Tuna Casserole

Tuna Casserole

Ingredients: 

2 cans of tuna

2 cups of elbow noodles

2 cups of shredded cheddar

2 cups of frozen veggies (what ever your family likes)

1 can of cream of chicken or cream of mushroom soup

1/2 cup of parmesan cheese

1/2 cup of milk

Preheat oven to 350.

Bring pot of water to boil. Cook elbows according to package. I put my frozen veggies in the same pot. I figure the fewer the dishes I have to wash the better. You can cook them separately if you prefer.

Flake tuna in casserole dish. I use the casserole dish because I hate to wash dishes so why dirty extra dishes.

Drain noodles and veggies.

Put noodles and veggies back into the pot. Mix the tuna, veggies, noodles, soup, 1 of the cups of cheddar cheese, parmesan cheese and milk. Mix well. 

Lightly spray casserole dish with nonstick spray.

Put into a casserole dish and top with the remainder of the cheddar cheese.

Bake in preheated oven for 25-30 minutes.

Super easy and quick!

Forgot the parmesan cheese and milk but you get the idea.

Tucking the kids into bed.

We have always tucked our kids in at night. When they were smaller we would rock them to sleep. This progressed into reading before bed to get them to settle down and relax. Now that the kids are both into some kind of activity year round, I notice we are more in a rush to just shower and get into bed. Usually we say our prayers, hug and kiss and lights out. Every now and then they will just come in our room, hug and kiss us and put themselves into bed.

Before the Christmas break, I had a headache and didn't tuck them in. Later, I felt a little guilty about it and made my way to their rooms. From the outside of the door I could over here Ansley reading the Bible to ChaChi. I just thought, I'm so glad I didn't miss this.

Over the break, I made it a point to go into their rooms to hang out with them before they went to sleep. We all piled into bed and would take turns reading. It seems like we must have all been giddy and laughed so hard I cried. Ansley said, "I can't remember the last time I laughed so hard." Another night I fell asleep to Ansley reading.

One night I walked in ChaChi's room to find both the kids had blankets tied around their wrists and ankles. They were jumping off the bed like flying squirrels. ChaChi jumped off the bed and said, "I think I felt it work a little." Ryan's mom was here and we were cracking up! Ansley wouldn't let me film her, haha.





The more I thought about it, I realized that as long as I continue to do this the better off we will all be. I think at the end of the day their little minds naturally unwind giving us the opportunity to have conversations we may not have throughout the hectic part of the day. It's really special time together to share our day, the fun moments, or perhaps to hear about how annoying the kid is beside them at school.

I just get lazy sometimes and don't want to make that trek to their room. I realize those may be the nights I may need to get laugh or an extra hug or kiss in the most.

If you don't already put your kids into bed, give it a try. If you feel the same way, I'd love to hear your routine or some of the fun stuff your family does before bed.

Eek A stupid mouse!

A few weeks ago we found evidence of a mouse in a hallway and in our master closet. For whatever reason Ryan put out a "catch and release" trap. I'm guessing Ryan was thinking maybe he'd go back and tell all his little mouse friends not to mess with us.

Instead, I'm afraid the mouse told his friends of a nice cozy place with all the food you could eat. Because, Sunday I found mouse poop in my pantry! This was no constipated mouse either! Anyone who knows me for five minutes knows that I am crazy OCD about certain things. This would be one of them.

Sunday, I started taking EVERYTHING out of my pantry and washing it. When we built our house I knew I wanted to have a really large pantry because I like to buy in bulk. I can't tell you how many times I thought to myself, "you just had to have a big pantry." I'm pretty sure I could be mistaken for a doomsday prepper I have so much junk in my pantry.

So this is what I did on Sunday and New Years Eve.

 In the midst of my pantry debacle, good ole Herb was back to finish my backsplash! I love it!

Finally, all cleared out!

There was even poop on the wall! I don't even want to know how it got there. Because in my mind, I can just imagine a posse of mice making bets on who can shoot their feces the furthest. Kind of like an episode of Jackass but only for mice. So after I got everything out, I bleached everything! The walls, the shelving and the floors!

Yes, poop on the wall!

ChaChi thinks he is hilarious! He put this in the pantry for me to find!

I got everything cleaned up and back in my pantry. Only this time I didn't leave anything on the floor. I've never had trouble with mice so I never thought about them climbing on the items on the floor to get to my food. I didn't have anything on the floor that wasn't food, except for potatoes. I have learned my lesson...the hard way.

I'm still super traumatized. Now that I have everything mouse proofed in the panty I'm scared he'll move into my kitchen! God forbid. I can't even sleep at night because of this stupid mouse! I wake up thinking I can hear little mouse footsteps. Yeah, I know they are tiny and I wouldn't be able to hear that but in the middle of the night it makes sense to me.

Sidebar: My tree was still up until this morning.

When do you take your tree down?

I've always heard that you should take your tree down before New Year's Day or it is bad luck. After searching the internet to see what the general rule is on the topic. Not once did that reason come up. I'm starting to think this was just something my mom made up so we wouldn't complain about her taking the tree down. "Mom, don't take the tree down we really enjoy the lights." She would respond, "I have to take it down or it's bad luck." Us, "Ok, you need any help?" Not that I'm superstitious but I do continue to take our tree down before New Year's. I think I do it because after Christmas, my house looks like a small explosion may have taken place and I'm just ready to get things back in order.

Here is what I found Catholics do: following Christian tradition, the Christmas tree should be put up and decorated Christmas Eve and stay up until Jan. 6th, the day of Epiphany. Epiphany is a feast day that celebrates God the son, as the human Jesus Christ.

Epiphany, the 12th day after Christmas, celebrates the visit of the three king or wise men to the Christ Child, signifying the extension of salvation to the Gentiles.

The Rockefeller Center Christmas tree comes down on Jan. 7th.

I certainly don't put my tree up on Christmas Eve. Does anyone do this?

So, I'm just wondering, when do you take down your tree? I have set up a poll. You should see it in the top left of the post. Let me know what you usually do.

Christmas Baking

If you're like me, hearing your kids bicker all day can make you as crazy as a soup sandwich. So before I started my holiday baking I thought it to be in everyone's interest to start off with a spot of wine. Let me set the scene. I had just finished clearing and cleaning the kitchen island and Ryan brings his paperwork in to pay bills or go through mail or whatever. To me, he might as well have plopped down kindling right there on my island to start a fire! Yeah, it was that kind of day. Ryan had some Christmas carols playing in the living room that sounded more like Thrash Metal to me. I have to confess, I don't really love Christmas music. I can handle Frosty or Rudolph but when you get into that Jazzy or Country stuff I feel like I'm gonna snap. So I think you get it. I was grouchy but it was not going to prohibit my Christmas baking. I just didn't want you to get the wrong idea from all my pretty pictures. I like to keep things real. 

Haystacks

3 Cans of chow mein noodles

2 Bags of Butterscotch chips

Put your morsels in a large microwave safe bowl for 1 minute and stir.

Put back in the microwave for 1 more minute and stir. You want it to be a smooth creamy consistency. 

Sir in your chow mien noodles a little at a time until well coated. 

Some people like to add peanuts or peanut butter but this is the way I like them best.

Then just spoon them out onto wax or parchment paper.

There you have your cute little haystacks. This recipe will yield about 36 dependent on how big are small you make your stacks.

Some call them bird's nest. That means a little more shaping and just drop some M & M's for your "eggs."

Oreo Balls

1 package plus 6 extra. You have to buy 2 packages because you need to account for all the Oreos that will be eaten while you try to make this recipe.

We crush them by hand because the kids like getting their hands dirty but you could also just give them a quick spin in a food processor.

1 Box of  softened cream cheese 

Mix together to form a well blended dough.

Roll into balls.

You'll need about 1 pound of vanilla flavored candy coating. I use almond bark. 

Melt it in the microwave for about two minutes stirring after one minute.

Dependent upon your mood, you may find it necessary to add more alcohol. 

I went with a little Vodka, Cran-Raspberry.

Dip your balls rolled Oreos in the melted candy coating and sprinkle (before coating dries)  with colored sugar if you would like to add a little color.

By the time I finished these I was in a much better mood. I'm sure it was the Christmas cheer and not the alcohol.

Forty and Flabulous

My 40th birthday was on a Sunday. Once a month my Sunday school class goes to a local assisted living home to do their service and the Sunday of my birthday was the Sunday we visited. I don't know why your fortieth birthday is such a reflective birthday, if you will but it was for me. I'm standing in the back of the room while some of the young girls sing Christmas carols. I'm looking around and I realize: 1. There is not a man in sight. Their husbands have all passed away. 2. These women are in their seventies, some older some younger. I'm forty, and time has really flow by, I don't feel like I should be forty! I am only thirty years away from the possibility of picking out a nursing home! I've heard people say life begins at forty but I have to admit I'm more than skeptical. Although I did take a look at nursing homes monthly schedule and they have a more active social life than I. They have bingo nights, trivia night, which I would just LOVE to be there on that night.  Walmart night, Jello week, something called Groundhog Day, which I imagine would be every day. If you've seen the movie you know what I mean. If you haven't seen the movie, you should. Wii Sports, OMGosh could you just imagine how the ski jump would look? I can. Muffin Mania week, China Lantern Festival, Humpback Whale Awareness as I'm typing this I realize the activity director has quite a sense of humor! You can't make this stuff up!

I had a low key birthday. Ryan wanted to have a party but I still don't have any chairs for my table. You simply cannot have a party if you don't have chairs. I just hung around the house with my family and my husband, while I still can. We usually go out to eat on our birthday but Ryan makes the best steaks so I chose that instead of going out. Ryan cooked and cleaned for me all day and that is just what I needed! Oh that, and the new laptop he got me.

My friend, Rachele sent me a certificate for wine which I promptly ordered. My other friend and neighbor, Anita brought over some homemade hot chocolate mix (looks like someone has been on Pinterest) and some butterscotch schnapps. That is my absolute favorite wintertime nightcap. If you have never tried it, I highly recommend it. If it's been an extremely stressful day throw in some vodka.

Well that sums up my fortieth. Not too exciting but just what I needed.

Apparently at forty, you can't open your eyes for pictures.